3 Ways to Motivate Your Child to Good Behavior and Right Decisions

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds…”

(Hebrews 10:24).

Whiplash parenting usually is counterproductive to the result parents are looking for. This kind of parenting typically tries to shape good behavior and right decisions in children by striking down the character and confidence of the child; but when a child is beat up, torn down and demeaned they usually respond in rebellion, more disobedience and distance from the parent. This kind of upbringing lessons a parent’s influence. However, when parents choose to encourage their children toward good behavior, they soon realize that positive words and affirmations produce positive outcomes.

Yes, accountability is a necessity, but it can be accomplished better with three types of actions:

  1. Note the bad behavior last. Intentionally look for and point out the good you see in your child first; if you do, you’ll find they are more ready to listen to what needs to be corrected. It’s so much easier to please a hopeful parent vs. a pessimistic one.
  2. Praise good decisions every chance you get. This breeds a desire in your child to continue down a constructive and righteous path of living. All people strive for praise; it gives us the courage to carry on.
  3. Communicate love and acceptance often. Separate all behavior and decisions apart from the love and acceptance you have for your child. You never want your child to feel they must earn your love and acceptance by what they do or don’t do. God is love and His love is never-ending regardless of our actions. After all, God’s love for us is not based on our actions, but instead upon His grace.

Good behavior and right decisions are good things we teach our children; but the lasting lesson in these is faith, love and hope. For all our work and our labor should be produced by faith and prompted by love. And endurance to press on is only possible if hope inspires it. This is a note to the work and labor of parenting as much as it is for our children’s behavior and decisions.

 ID-10040748    “We continually remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ”  (1 Thessalonians 1:3).


Feeling the Pang of Persecution?

Feeling the pang of persecution in your life? Feeling the sting of suffering? Is living the Christian life not peaches and cream for you? Know this, Satan still opposes the Gospel and his aim is to persecute God’s people. But take heart, persecution also breeds growth. Suffering produces, it molds, it creates, and it makes something new in you!

Qualities like perseverance, maturity, wisdom, generosity, faith, and resolution become the new person in us when we are persecuted. We cross the line from being lukewarm to becoming confident and focused on one aim – pleasing Jesus Christ and proclaiming His salvation. David speaks of it, Paul shares it, Peter makes it known, and we can join this throng of believers and use our sufferings and trials to make inroads with the good news of our Savior!

Suffering also procures one of the most imperative ingredients we need to be successful at influencing others. Suffering initiates conviction! As Paul says so pointedly to the Thessalonians, “…our gospel came to you not simply with words but also with power, with the Holy Spirit and deep conviction…You have become imitators of us and of the Lord, for you welcomed the message in the midst of severe suffering with the joy given by the Holy Spirit…” (1 Thessalonians 1:5-6).

Suffering breeds conviction and conviction propelled by the power of the Holy Spirit makes imitators of the Lord. Therefore, when others drown in despair because of their anguish, we can soar in the joy of the Lord, because regardless of our circumstances and our persecutions, the joy of the Lord becomes our strength and helps us embrace our challenges with power and with hope.

My friends, view the difficulties in life as growing pains and center yourself deeply in the Savior’s bosom, for His embrace is certain and His power is guaranteed!

“Not to us, Lord, not to us but to Your Name be the glory, because of Your love and faithfulness” we can soar! (Psalm 115:1).

What To Do When Riches Fall and is No More

Be not a person who puts your trust in wealth or your life here on this earth. When a person does this, their end is full of disappointment, despair and doom. For wealth and life are temporary this side of heaven. One minute you have it, the next it falls and is no more.   ID-10010586

If provision is your need, and you have none, yet see the evil prosper, remember to not fear when difficult days come, when poverty might strike you, or you are without the riches of this earth, for why should you fear? You can have the Almighty God of heaven and earth on your side.


Reminded by the Psalmist, He tells us that those who trust in their wealth and boast of their great riches are not people who can 1.) redeem the life of another or 2.) give to God a ransom for himself—for the  ransom for a life is costly, no payment is ever enough! Since life eternal is the aim, then we can certainly agree (believer or non believer) that we have no power over death and can make no lasting payment for sin.

1.) No man is able to live on forever and 2.) not see decay. His riches will not save him. For all can see that wise men die; the foolish and the senseless alike perish and leave their wealth to others. Their tombs will remain their houses forever, their dwellings for endless generations; it doesn’t matter that they had lands named after themselves. For no man, despite his riches, endures; he is like the beasts that perish.

This is the fate of those who trust in themselves, and of their followers, who approve of their boasting:

Like sheep they are destined for the grave, and death will feed on them. The upright will rule over them in the morning; their forms will decay in the grave —- far from their princely mansions.

However, for those whose trust is in the Lord, their end is quite different:

God will redeem their life from the grave; this person will surely be received by the Lord. Eternity is set in their heart and it will also be their reality. Riches from heaven will adorn their life always – riches that surpass whatever can be had on earth.

The greatest riches we can receive is not only forgiveness of sin, presence with the Father, but a new body created without temptations and testing that always befall us here on earth. Peace will always reign in our life.

Simple, Saved, Secure…will be the new order found in our heavenly home.

Your poverty here may be preparation for great splendor in your new home! So don’t be overawed when a man grows rich, when the splendor of his house increases; for he will take nothing with him when he dies, his splendor will not go with him. Though while he lived he counted himself rich– and men praised him when he prospered–he will join the generation of his fathers, who will never see the light [of life].

Be warned, a man who has riches without Christ is like the beasts that perish. The end is continuous despair and they will be in constant envy for the peace found in life eternal – but they will find none.

“Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the LORD our God” (Psalm 20:7).

Psalm 49 inspired this blog.

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Do You Not Feel Guilty?

Is it possible for a person to not feel guilt for their sin?

Yes, over time with justified repeated sin, they can cross the line where they do not feel guilty for their wrong doing. This is a dangerous place, because when a person crosses this line, the result is often no return to truth and what is good. I did not say there is no hope for return, for God’s grace is always available to those who repent, but the problem lies in the deceptions these people keep feeding themselves. They ignore God; and to ignore God is to heap curses upon a person’s life.  They harden themselves to truth each time they justify their sin.

How does a person cross this line? They flatter themselves so much they cannot detect or hate their sin. Their words are wicked and deceitful and from this they act unwisely and plot evil. This way of life becomes all they know. They become blinded from what is good. Even when they rest, they plot evil; they commit themselves completely to devising sinful plans. They don’t regret what is wrong; doing wrong becomes a way of life for them. (Psalm 36:2-14).

Just as a person who lacks fresh fruits and vegetables in their diet can over a time develop a disease called scurvy, so does a person who lacks truth in their life develop a desensitized conscience for their sin. A soul that lacks a daily dose of God’s truth will result in sin that darkens them to wickedness, deceit and evil. The problem thickens and becomes ruthlessly inescapable. A desensitized sinful life does not lead to good days.

Good days are only had by following truth (specifically the truth of God’s word). Saturation of truth keeps one’s conscience clean. Confession and repentance, keeping our tongue from deceiving ourselves, proclaiming the truth as well as believing it, seeking peace, pursuing righteousness and turning from evil grants us good days. God created our conscience; He created the feeling of guilt, just as He created the feeling of pain to tell us something is wrong. Guilt is a gift. It steers us and keeps us on the right tract. We function spiritually well when we have a healthy conscience operating the way God intended.

If you are sinning and not feeling guilt, check the lies you are telling yourself and measure how much truth from God’s word you are ingesting each day. You could be headed down a much darkened track to a diseased conscience.