Watching Over the Affairs of Our Household

A wife and mother watch over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Proverbs 31:27-28

Verse twenty-seven through twenty-eight is just a slice of the Proverbs 31 Woman. This slice indicates her devotion and her commitment above all else. She has an agenda: to care for her home, her husband and her children. All else is secondary to this one mission in her life.

Many woman refuse or neglect to read Proverbs 31:10-31 for fear they will find conviction. Conviction is certainly not comfortable, but it is profitable. While we will find conviction, we also find steps to improve and a clear path to follow. Some women feel defeated before they even get to the passage; therefore, they give up before they get started. Some think that the expectations of this passage is simply too high, yet, I would disagree. Nothing is impossible WITH GOD.

Let’s unpack this slice in the Proverb.
First, we discover that a wife and mother will take care of the affairs of her household and not eat the bread of idleness. Does this mean she has a perfect model presentation of her home? No. Does it mean she has a perfectly decorated (in season and out of season) residence? No. The affairs of the home involve so much more than presentation. For we can have a beautiful home and still neglect the affairs of the family. It’s funny, when we look at Proverbs 31:10-31, we do not see anywhere that the woman was praised for a perfectly festive home. We see a spiritually strong woman with a heart filled with love.

When we look at other passages in scripture we find what these important affairs include:

1.  A wife respects, submits, and obeys her husband; likewise the husband loves and submits to her. (Ephesians 5:21-23). This affects the rest of the household.  It begins with the marriage relationship; when this relationship is strong, loving, and filled with understanding, it flows into the training and development of the children. The fruit is a home of PEACE. 

2. mother will teach her children. In Proverbs 6:20 each child is instructed to not forsake his mother’s teaching. That teaching involves giving insight to the word of God, application to their existence, preparing each for their niche in life, and building godly character in each child’s person. From this each unique child  finds his or her way for which God has set out for them; they in turn are effective.  The fruit is a home of PURPOSE

3.  A mother and wife will support a home of order. A home of order is not a perfect model but a clean and manageable place to live. Keeping order sets the tone of calm and security for our family. Food and cleanliness brings sustenance and harmony to each member. We serve a God of order not chaos; the fruit of taking care of the affairs of our home communicates this part of God’s character to our family and those in our influence. (1 Corinthians 14:4; Titus 2:5). The fruit is a home of DIRECTION.

 4. A woman of influence is not idle nor does she feed on senseless ideas and chatter. A wife and mother will carve out the time each day to fill herself with God’s wisdom, His purposes, and His ways. She faces each difficulty with God’s hope not the world’s despair. She is one who reaches out vs. retreats in. She is a blessing outside the home and a profit to her family. She is all this, because she is first on her knees and serves out of humility. The fruit is a home of IMPACT.

Secondly, we find in this passage a beautiful benefit to being this woman: her children praise her and her husband also. When this woman ages, and she watches her children grow up and out, she can look back and see the fruit of her efforts. If she has respected her husband, she also has wonderful years to look forward to as the empty nest faces her.
But take note, when a woman like this does look back she also sees her mistakes and the ways she could have improved. She sees the frailty of her human weaknesses.  She does have some regrets; however, she can say that she brought her failures to the Lord and asked Him to fill in the gap where she was inadequate to the call. She will remember that God conquers and wins when we choose to conquer our spiritual immaturity with prayer and persistence to NEVER GIVE UP.

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